Relaxing Yourself To That Perfect Kiss

Let’s get one thing out of the way from the beginning. Kissing and sex are two separate acts and if you plan to learn how to be a good kisser you need to realize this right away. I’m not saying that kissing can’t lead to sex but if you think that that is the only purpose of kissing you’re dead wrong.

If you’re reading this article you probably need a little help with your kissing technique or are seeking instruction on kissing so I will like to give you the best tip I can give you up front. RELAX. I know it may sound a little to simple; especially if you’re nervous around women but relaxing is truly the best thing you can do to improve your kissing.

After learning to relax around that special lady in your life you can then move on to mastering kissing techniques. As stated earlier kissing and sex are two different acts so you must learn which kiss is appropriate for the moment. Are you kissing to show her affection or if she’s ready are you prepared for the ultimate which is intimacy.

Women can have mood swings so it’s your job to recognize which mood she’s in. If this is the first kiss of course it should be an affectionate kiss. Trying to move towards intimacy after the first kiss with most women can lead to failure. Flatter her with that first kiss. Tell her how much you enjoy her company and flood her with compliments. After she relaxes a bit tell her about how attractive she looks and go as far as to describe her facial features as well as her hair and the outfit she’s wearing. If that goes well tell her that you like her lips, lipstick color, etc and that you would love to kiss her. If you’ve done everything step by step and got her to relax she will more than welcome your kiss of affection. Afterwards be sure to compliment her regarding the kiss. As you can see here, learning how to be a good kisser start with our first tip of relaxing. Relax yourself, then she’ll start to feel relaxed and you’ll soon be on your way.

Now that you’re into a relationship with her it’s time to think about kissing for intimacy if you’re both ready for that step. How do you know if she’s ready for intimacy? By kissing and observing her response. When the mood is right and the two of you are alone put on some soft music and play her favorite song. Say the things that you’ve have learned thus far that relaxes her but this time give her a long slow kiss and see how she responds. The key here again is to stay relaxed and don’t rush. Put you body into it and see if she’s going with the flow. Press your body against her’s while running you fingers through her hair and across her shoulders. If she succumbs to your advancements she’s ready for intimacy and you should continue through to sex. Just remember to keep things slow and take your time. I’ve heard women say over and over that they were ready for sex with a certain man but his moving so hastily ruined the mood. So remember to take your time and let her body language dictate your pace.

So how to be a good kisser you ask. The short answer is to learn to relax around women which in turn will make them relax around you. After mastering relaxation the kissing part will become as natural as waking up in the morning. Every kiss doesn’t have to be perfect but with practice every kiss will tell you something about the mood she’s in and whether affection or intimacy is on her mind.